Recently I came across the following quote by Stephen Covey “The most important ingredient we put in any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.” This is especially significant in the midlife transition stage where “what we are” becomes a very personal search. This is the time of [...]
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Did you know that we need change in life in order to feel vibrant? We need it as individuals and also in our relationships. It is newness that revitalizes us and keeps us energized. Relationships need periodic rekindling. Marriages settle into predictable patterns of interacting. This may work well for many years but at [...] I read a blurb today put out by the European Union (consisting of 27 nations) stating that the number of children born out of wedlock has doubled in the last twenty years. The country with the highest out of wedlock birth rate, 59%, is Estonia. Since I am originally from Estonia I was very interested [...] Couples start out with great hopes of living ever after. Even if there are problems present somehow they get pushed aside and the hope persists. Sadly, for many it does not work out that way. I have observed common mistakes in this thinking. The first mistake is expecting the exciting falling in love stage to continue [...] When I was growing up I only remember there being Mother’s Day. As I think about it I realize that it never occurred to me to question why there was not a Father’s Day. I lived in Austria from age 6 to 13 and subsequently in the States where my family did not celebrate Father’s [...] My passion is helping people build relationships that they enjoy. I think that there are too many people who do not understand that healthy marital relationships require a constant balancing of individual needs with togetherness needs. Both are necessary needs and have to be attended to. Each person can only take responsibility for their own feelings [...] I read an interesting observation today stressing a big drawback of living together before marriage. The reason given was that many people begin to live together before they have had a chance to experience what it is like to be independent. As a result they miss out on the growing up step of standing on [...] I have just been listening to Tiger Woods who gave a press conference. This time he really seemed to understand the emotional ramifications of his behavior both for himself and for his marriage. His infidelity was a betrayal of their marital commitment. Only time will tell if his wife and he can repair their marriage. A [...] There is no magic answer to rekindling a relationship. There is no one thing that will quickly turn things around. Yet many couples are able to achieve a new closeness in their relationship. You may well ask ” how do they do it?” After helping many couples rekindle their relationship I have found that there are [...] When I say “Think Process” most people do not have a clue of what I am talking about. By process I mean learning to look at what goes on in between people. We are so used to taking a one dimensional look at what goes on with a person that we neglect to study what [...] |
 
  
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