Growing From a Challenge

I have been participating in the 30 day blog challenge hosted by Dr. Jeanette Cates.  Today is the last day and I am writing number thirty-one.  This is what the experience has been like for me.

Although the challenge was external I had to make the decision to participate  and stick to achieving my goal.  I [...]

Making a Commitment

I have just been listening to Tiger Woods who  gave a press conference.  This time he really seemed to understand the emotional ramifications of his behavior both for himself and for his marriage.  His infidelity was a betrayal of their marital commitment.  Only time will tell if his wife and he can repair their marriage.

A [...]

Communication and Self-Esteem

Most couples that I have worked with will initially say that they do not communicate. I see their frustration with each and feel their hope that if only their partner would make some changes he/she would be fine.  It doesn’t quite work that way.  The solution lies in each person taking responsibility for their own [...]

Making Changes

At  least once a week  I get an email promising fantastic changes in my life.   All I would have to do is sign up with the sender’s program.  Promises of financial success, no fail business ventures, finding the right partner, true happiness and so on, all by taking a brief course or program. Who [...]

Solutions Not Problems

If you think you have a problem what you really want is to find a solution.  I have found over the years of working with people that in many situation a problem solving approach does not work so well. Looking for solutions achieves good results.

Here is a good example.  The other day I coached Judy [...]

Why Self-Growth and Relationship Skills?

I have been asked as to why on this site I stress  both self-growth and relationship skills.  Why not just focus on one or the other.  In my mind they are linked.

I think  that it is through  self-growth  that positive changes occur in  marriages/relationships. The stronger one’s self-worth (the result of self-growth) the easier it [...]

Rekindle Your Relationship

There is no magic answer to rekindling a relationship. There is no one thing that will quickly turn things around.  Yet many couples are able to achieve a new closeness in their relationship.  You may well ask ” how do they do it?”

After helping many couples rekindle their relationship I have found that there are [...]

Control in Relationships

Control in relationships gets complicated. There are several ways that control affects relationships. In healthy relationships  it is important for each person to be in control of self.  That means that each  takes responsibility for his/her own feelings and thinking.  This  kind of control increases self-worth and enhances the well being of the relationship.

Another way [...]

Upgrade Your Relationships

Whenever I use the term UPGRADE YOUR RELATIONSHIP I get interesting reactions. Some people do not seem to have much of an idea as to what I am talking about.  Others will say that is just what they want for themselves.

We all interact with people  on a daily basis either live, on the phone, or [...]

Rekindle Your Relationship

First I want to tell you about the Q&A show I did with Bruce L. Bair on Nov. 18, 2009.  He is a superb wellness coach with a strong medical background.  Since I am a relationship expert Bruce asked great questions about the impact of menopause on relationships.  It turned out that we both shared [...]