When one person in a relationship starts making changes and the other doesn’t there is an effect on the balance of the relationship. Whenever I am coaching someone at some point this balance struggle arises. This does not just happen to the people I coach but it is a universal phenomenon. As one person starts making consistent changes there is an effort by others to reestablish the old equilibrium.
Once one understands that this is bound to happen it becomes easier to resist the return to the old equilibrium. No doubt you have heard or experienced that when trying to loose weight friends, spouses, co-workers etc. may start bringing in foods that undermine these efforts. The key is to stay stead fast and ignore this sabotage and in time others will accept the change. Likewise, when initiating change in a relationship balance there will inevitably be some resistance. Even though the steps taken may be all for the good there will be a brief period of pull back by others to the familiar equilibrium.
This Thursday, August 13, I will discuss this phenomenon in detail in my weekly Radio Show:http://www.vibrantafterfifty.com
